Well, this is interesting....
I was able to load a SuperPET 6809 terminal emulator, called TARDIS. It seems very capable, and allows the RVS/OFF key to be used as a CTRL key. So I can send those Control codes....
Catch is that the terminal emulator starts up set to 1200 baud, and I cannot find a way to change this setting (I've tried every key combination I can think of). I need to set it to 300 baud because that's what the WiModem232 is set to currently. I'll have to keep trying to figure this out.
So then I found another terminal program, which was written for the SuperPET, but runs in 6502 mode, and merely uses the serial port on the 6809 board. It starts up set to 300 baud. It worked! I as able to issue an ATI command and get a report from the WiModem232. Also, I was able to connect to a BBS.
This was accomplished with the RS-232 analyzer in between the WiModem and the SuperPET, with pins 8 & 20 jumpered as shown above (in message #69).
Next, I'll use the 6502 terminal program to set the WiModem232 to 1200 baud, then load the TARDIS terminal emulator (which is set to 1200 baud) and see if I get any positive results solely doing everything from the 6809 side.